I’ve been wanting to write about friendships for a while but not known how to.
I feel it’s something I have always battled with and looking back it’s not always because of bad friendships but more because of big insecurities and the challenge in change.
Having moved into motherhood I’ve made friends with people I thought I had nothing in common with, but having a baby at similar times has bought a whole new community round me and now I couldn’t imagine life without them. It’s also caused some friendships to simmer down, that’s where I struggle. I can sometimes hold on so tightly to how a friendship was, I don’t allow it to grow and develop as lifestyles change - ending in distance and frustration for both sides I’m sure. Friendships grow, and so when seasons change that friendship either grows or develops. My challenge is to know that’s its okay that the friendship dynamic changes, and just because it’s not the same doesn’t mean I’m any less there for them or they are for me..
This isn’t a woe at me post at all, I just feel I can’t be the only one who at times finds it hard in a season that’s challenging enough as it is, without having to nurture old friendships and build new ones.
So let’s be kind. Let’s encourage other mama’s. Message someone you haven’t for a while and see how they are. Love on your child and LOVE the season you are in. Seriously, I’ve had Judah Wild just over 4 months and the speed in which he is growing is insane - let them be your focus and your friends will find their fit.
Jess & Judah Wild x