Being a parent is the biggest gift, the most wonderful thing - but it's tough and it's constant. Even when sleeping your still slightly on edge, ready to get up if you hear your little one cry out. So why do we feel guilty when we want a moment to ourselves? I mean, if there was any other job that required your attention 24 hours a day, people would tell you to take a holiday, make sure you have a break - so why not the same for motherhood?
Now, I'm not meaning take a 2 week break without your kid, although if that's what you wanna do, go for it. I'm talking about finding moments. Moments in the day, doing something that will make you happy, make you feel like you.
In all honesty, I found it a challenge to remember what makes me happy. I have and always will love shopping, fashion and interiors - but with money being a bit tighter, I'm having to be savvy and/or remember old loves. To be honest, the simplest of things will make me feel more like me.. within the whirlwind that is motherhood I find it hard to keep my hair clean/straight, my legs smooth and my armpits often have hair underneath that is just not acceptable - but I don't put myself first anymore. So one thing I can do is just a simple look after myself. Give myself a moment to feel 'groomed'. Finding moments to make you feel more you is vital.
To help remind me what I value and enjoy, I got my house tidy, cleared my mind of my LONG to do list, and sat in silence. In front me was a little (actually, quite sizeable) black box, a box called MOMENTS. Yes, I was gifted it to blog about, but I also desperately needed it. Something for me, something to give me time and space. And something that was actually incredibly beautiful and feeling so loved when opening it. Something that someone had obviously thought a lot about, that wanted the receiver to feel some worth when opened.
Beautiful layers of thought about gifts, in perfect pink packaging and all complimenting each other. Unfortunately, I can't put into words how I felt when opening it, I think I was in such a place of need that I was almost overwhelmed. The most thoughtful gift for when you have no idea what to get. Perfection.
So here's a question for you. What makes you happy? What can you spend a moment doing that will fuel you for a day, a week, a little longer? Is it a gift? Is it a book, a walk, a moment with a coffee and a magazine - or is it writing, journalling, refocusing and dreaming? Whatever is, do not, I repeat, DO NOT feel guilty for needing time for you. Find a moment, leave the washing up for 30minutes, clear your mind and take time for you - I promise you that it will fuel you and if you don't believe it yourself, listen to me when I say, you are worth taking time for.
I can't force you to take a moment for yourself, but I can advise and I can help you out a little bit. So we have collaborated with Little Black Box to give you 20% off all precurated boxes as well as 20% off the build a box function if you spend over £35.
We also believe in you having a healthy mind and we believe that journalling is key, so we would like to give you 20% off the dreamer journal also. Just used the code JUDAH20 on both sites to receive your 20% discount - and if not for yourself, why not for a friend?
Whether you're a mama or not, we all need a bit of me time so make the most of this offer whilst you can.
We love you, we believe in you.
Jess + Judah Wild x